Today's review is on Crash: A Mother, a Son, and the Journey from Grief to Gratitude by Dr. Carolyn Roy-Bornstein
and foremost, I have to say that this is the most heart wrenching and
heart warming book that I have had the pleasure of reading in a very
A memoir of her son's tragic accident that left his
girlfriend dead and him suffering from a traumatic brain injury, Crash
takes the reader step by step on Bornstein's and her families grueling
road through loss, recovery and acceptance.
Written so well and
with such clarity, I could not help but be touched in some way or
another from each and every page. Be it the description of Bornstein
gasping for breath as she raced to the scene of the accident, the way
she explained the fixed and dilated state of Trista's eyes, or the joy
she felt when hearing Neil tell her that he "jumped", I was right there
emoting along beside her.
Tragedy can happen in anyone's life at
any given point, a concept many teens do not understand. It's something
that we, as their parents don't want to think about either, but it is
something that does need to be addressed. No one is indestructible.
The alarming number of teen deaths due to drinking and driving, drugs,
or suicide should be proof enough of that, but many times it just isn't.
I wish that someone like Neil or his family could have spoken at my
high school. Perhaps then, three of my classmates would still be alive
today, all taken to early because of someone driving under the influence
An AMAZING Book that should be a part of any teen's library. I know I'll have my own two read it.
5 of 5 stars
Available at Amazon
Book Description: via Amazon
25 years of caring for children, first as a nurse, then as a
pediatrician, Carolyn Roy-Bornstein finds herself on the other side of
the stretcher when her 17-year-old son Neil is hit by a teenage drunk
driver while walking his girlfriend Trista home after a study date.
Trista did not survive her injuries. Neil carries his with him to this
Gratitude for her son’s survival ultimately gives way
to grief. While initially told Neil’s only injury was a broken leg,
Roy-Bornstein quickly finds herself riding in the front seat of an
ambulance transporting her son to the ICU at Brigham and Women’s
Hospital in Boston; his brain is bleeding.
now not the patient’s doctor or nurse but his mom. The world she so
easily navigates in a white uniform or a white coat now must be
traversed, understood, and dealt with from the perspective of a parent.
There are many dividing lines in this story. The line that divides
this family’s life in two: the events that occurred before the crash and
those that came tumbling and faltering in its wake. The line that
separates grief from gratitude: gratitude that her son is alive and as
whole as he is; grief for his loss of memory and changed personality and
for having his whole world shattered in an instant. The line that
separates the world Roy-Bornstein knew so well as a doctor from the new
one she must now navigate as the parent of a trauma victim.
In these pages she explores all of these boundaries: between then and
now, grief and gratitude, before and after, us and them. Her many years
as a "medical insider" bring her story authenticity and detail, while
her newcomer status as the parent of a trauma victim add poignancy and
warmth in this first memoir.